I begin every leadership engagement by asking leaders to identify their values—not company values, but their actual values that drive who they are professionally and personally. Once we truly know our values, we can begin to trust ourselves more and reduce our constant fears. Knowing our values and self allows us to show up with authentic presence.

In my early days, I was cautious, measured, and loyal. Yet, as I reflect on the shifts in my career, they all occurred after dramatic moments that included a hospital visit of some sort. This is a story of lessons to pause and reflect, courageously shift, and trust in the growth that follows. Now, I see other qualities in myself, including bravery, entrepreneurialism, and curiosity.

Asking for feedback at work (and in life) is a great way to grow and show initiative, but how you ask matters. Advice feels forward-looking and actionable, and people enjoy giving it because it makes them feel valued and invested in your success. Let's explore strategies for asking, giving, and creating a culture of continuous learning through giving and receiving advice.